Always wish your detractors the best, someone else’s success has nothing to do with your success, everything someone else have, you too can achieve.
lol, considering my current circumstances, you know I believe it.
I daresay, a good 40 -80% of your discontent comes from comparing yourself unfavorably to someone else and seriously, you need to stop it.
With social media dictating most of our moods you must be vigilant, very little has any bearing in real life and you already know this so why are you not actively making effort to disengage?
This is not a advice blog for a preteen so I’m not going to talk to you like you are a young adult because you are a grown adult.
Make a list and begin the sleuthing, you should be able to have a honest conversation with yourself about the emotions you are having and you should be able to say, why am I feeling like this?
You ought to be able to articulate and when I use ‘honest’ I mean the conversation that is not necessarily flattering or aspirational, own it, wiggle out every little inane and petty reason. Then when you have that mapped out you ask yourself, ‘ Is this who I want to be? ‘
Like this-> you know that girl you think is such a epic B?
Why do you think so ?
Disclaimer: hating someone for how they look, dress or talk , is really you projecting your own unresolved issues on to someone else.
It is 100 % unacceptable and you need to work on that bit post haste because you are abusive in your sentiments, towards that person and more significantly, to yourself.
So you hate her
…….. because she makes you feel bad about yourself?
Naw girl doggie, go to the gym and get your own body to be proud of.
Shift focus from ‘lack’ – what you don’t have to abundance – what you do have, what you can achieve.
You do have a body and its just as good as mine, probably better.
Let go of everyone but yourself,
No one should be weighted with the burden of your happiness.
You alone are to carry that responsibility and ideally joyfully so.
Similarly, nothing anyone does should have the power to derail your happiness and the only one you are competing with is yourself.
You obviously can’t get along with everybody but you are expected to be able to be civil and cooperative even with people you dont like.
Neither is a second code of conduct for people you disagree with acceptable.
Being a adult is hard work, it doesn’t slow down either. We all make mistakes, what matters is what you learn from it.
Life is precious. Be good to yourself.